January
25
2010

Forgives…is that really what love does??

Well…today we are supposed to talk about forgiving our spouse. Taking time to ponder hurts and issues that harbor resentment etc…That causes me to go deep into a well that is fairly dry. I cannot find things that I need to forgive Wendy for…I am not trying to be “unauthentic” TRUST ME…i would love to be able to share something here!! LOL

I do feel that even though I have nothing of major consequence to forgive Wendy for…I perhaps need to focus on stuff that is not as big…the little things…

I find that the little things do not seem as big, but the results can be everybit as damaging. So, my job is to talk to Wendy about those “little” things…

This is not always a fun exercise…it is healthy and wise to do this, but it is like pulling a band-aid off at times…I will do this and discuss it with Wendy tonight.

I have to admit after 21 years I have so little to forgive Wendy for…We have worked through so much. The toughest part is maintaining that place of forgiveness…I am blessed!!

I will video tomorrow…

Kevin
www.kevinpauls.com

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4 Comments to “Forgives…is that really what love does??”

  1. By Cheryl Weber, January 25, 2010 @ 4:42 pm

    Hey you two – keep up the great work! We’re still following you guys and I don’t know if you checked out this week’s poll, but almost 40% of participants are keeping to it because the couples are inspiring them. Thanks for all your hard work!

  2. By Bill & Pam, January 26, 2010 @ 4:01 am

    Hi Cheryl, There needs to be a radio button for those of us who are not keeping up…or would that be a whole ‘nother poll? LOL ~ We’re trying but there always seems to be something else to do. We’re ok and will catch up I’m sure but we’re only at day 18 I think…and I’ve got 6 days out of town this week as well. We’ll try to to the dares long-distance maybe. Is that ok do you think?

  3. By Sister Sue (In Christ), January 26, 2010 @ 12:35 pm

    I have a hard time forgiving whole heartedly because the same hurtful words are used over and over again, I am not sure how this is love. I am trying to please Christ by perservering and honoring the commitment and vpw . But I still see the future as very uncertain with a spouse who sees nothing wrong with our marriage. Susan

  4. By Cheryl Weber, January 26, 2010 @ 6:29 pm

    Hey Pam,

    I totally understand – I’m doing it too and found it unevenly realized over the days. I’m doing it long distance with my boyfriend and we’ve had to find creative ways to make it work. So one day when we had to lighten the load of the other (we’re a little ahead), we set aside 10 minutes, asked each other for our prayer requests, and spent a focussed 10 minutes praying for the other’s needs. I think the important thing is that you are thinking about and investing in your relationship and that is the real payoff of the Love Dare. Just my opinion!