January
30
2010

Day 30 – Love brings unity

Father, keep them in Your name, the name which You have given Me, that they may be one even as We are. — John 17:11

Today’s Dare

Isolate one area of division in your marriage, and look on today as a fresh opportunity to pray about it. Ask the Lord to reveal anything in your own heart that is threatening oneness with your spouse. Pray that He would do the same for them. And if appropriate, discuss this matter openly, seeking God for unity.

Did the Lord open your eyes to anything new that might be giving fuel to this point of disagreement? How do you intend to respond? What do you hope to see God do in your spouse as well?

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4 Comments to “Day 30 – Love brings unity”

  1. By Dorothy Marsland, January 31, 2010 @ 8:17 am

    Day 30: My prayer for today was that there would be unity in love and obedience to Christ. When I look into my own heart it is revealed to me that I should never dwell on wishing for this but in all things pertaining to this pray without ceasing and in everything give thanks because this is the will of God concerning you. What a promise!

  2. By joanne, January 31, 2010 @ 12:01 pm

    Chris, Jeeva, and Kevin – this is addressed to you.
    I am doing the dare without my husband knowing it. It has been very difficult finding appropriate times to discuss those introspective questions with him. Often I just do them on my own. For today’s dare I asked him if he could think of any areas where we disagreed. He was very defensive and asked why I would even want to go there. He feels that I’m trying to create controversy where there isn’t any. He thinks it would hurt, not help, our relationship to discuss these things.
    Now this is what I want to ask all you men who are doing this dare – if you were not doing this dare with your wife, wouldn’t you feel threatened if your wife wanted to discuss these things with you? Also, has discussing these issues with your wife changed how you would approach such discussions in the future? Do you think it’s beneficial?
    I don’t think it comes as a surprise that there aren’t any men doing this dare without their wives (or is there?). And for the couples doing this dare together, was it the husband or wife who initiated it? Other than in the movie, Fireproof, I think it’s usually the wife.

  3. By margaret, January 31, 2010 @ 5:09 pm

    The book of Hebrews was written from Italy to the Hebrews, who depended on their 500plus laws. Our “laws” are written by God’s hands on our hearts and our understanding as we study God’s Word. Jerusalem was a destuctable city while our mount Zion/our Jerusalem/our Jesus is indestructable. Our hope is in Him. Halleluja – so in Him we can have unity even though in the physical it is not always easily attainable and we have to struggle to achieve unity.

  4. By Chris and Lisa, February 4, 2010 @ 6:39 pm

    Hi Joanne,

    Somehow I missed your question… Sorry.

    I am going to stereotype most guys, I know that there are always exceptions to the rule but I’ll generalize anyway! I think most guys generally are “Deal with it and move on with life” mentality…. Guys generally can fight with other guys and then come to a resolution and start talking sports (or whatever topic) 5 minutes later and we don’t understand why this doesn’t work the same with woman!

    So this dare was difficult for me… Lisa would probably be more likely to have a list of things that I do that cause division. I really don’t have a list because I’m more likely to feel like we have already found a resolution to past areas of concern (this is not always true but by moving on, it feels like it) and therefore have no desire to look back!

    This dare is probably more about the HOW you accomplish it rather than ACTUALLY doing it… If I remember correctly Lisa started with an apology for some of the past areas which buttered me up for the hard shot I was going to hear next! It helps that Lisa and I frequently talk about what we want to see our lives like in the future… and we are able to do it without bringing up painful mistakes from the past!

    Joanne, that’s my answer to your question…

    Chris