Enjoy your day at church…..or not. Yes, couples will always have fights. Relationships are growing more and more complex and to throw Christianity in the mix and it even makes it harder. The expectations, the rules, the Scriptures. I really think Christianity can make a marriage harder. Not only that, you’re judged by the church especially as you are both pastors. Every move is monitored. I am single and happy. So happy with myself, getting to learn what I want in life and building my career. Sure, I’d love to have someone but dating is sometimes more dangerous thank being single as you open yourself up to another person’s values and ways – and possibly getting hurt. Just my thoughts. Being married and in the church is complex. Take care. Nice painting in the background. I’d like to get one like that too but they’re so expensive.
Sounds like the two of you have hit a bit of a wall – I did a few days ago too because I didn’t feel like facing all the ghosts in our 51 year old marriage. Then I finished reading and studying the book of Hebrews together with Charles Price’s book on Hebrews and found courage to “Hope” not only for our heavenly Jerusalem but for today and tomorrow in sickness and in health to find a unity of spirit ( and how and when and what to do) in Him who is our savior and our Hope!!! Bless you both!!!
I appreciate you following along with us… But I can’t disagree with you more! Our faith is not making things harder but the exact opposite. It is because of our faith that we have hope for the amazing things that are in store for us. It is our faith that allows us to be able to “disagree” and still me madly in love with one another… It is because of our understanding on God’s love for us that we can comprehend what true love is toward each other…
Until you understand the fathers Love for you; It will be difficult for you to truly love someone else… You need to know his love for you Melanie before you ever truly “get the most out of” any earthly relationship!
Also, I really have to tell you that being a Pastor is something that we both love… It is not a burden that people are looking to us and watching our lives because we don’t live our lives for them! Lisa and I have chosen to live our lives in a way that honours God, and if people want to follow our lead we count ourselves privileged to be a part of their journey! As we seek to live for God it causes us to constantly evaluate what we are doing and what we are allowing into our lives… Hope that you get what we are trying to communicate!
With each dare we have to evaluate our lives… Some of these dares are hard for us because we have yet to experience some of them in our relationship! We know that we could and so we are using a lot of these as an opportunity to be proactive in our preparation for a long and happy marriage. We are trying to not allow ourselves to “hit the wall” as there is so much value in the information in each of these love dares! I hope that we don’t come across as not intrigued by each of these dares but that we are trying to learn now to properly address marriage life as it come at us….
I appreciate what you are saying. I have tried the Father’s love and with it came trials and attacks. It made me spend my twenties and now thirties alone. I am a very lonely person because I chose the church and have been let down by everyone in it. Not one person has stuck by me. That’s why I am following people I don’t know on Twitter. I have loved when I was a Christian and I didn’t find it made a difference. It’s a long, painful road for some and I spend so many nights crying myself to sleep because I chose a path that few walk. I am too nice a person to have spent the best times in my life alone.
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By Melanie Sabo, January 31, 2010 @ 4:17 pm
Enjoy your day at church…..or not. Yes, couples will always have fights. Relationships are growing more and more complex and to throw Christianity in the mix and it even makes it harder. The expectations, the rules, the Scriptures. I really think Christianity can make a marriage harder. Not only that, you’re judged by the church especially as you are both pastors. Every move is monitored. I am single and happy. So happy with myself, getting to learn what I want in life and building my career. Sure, I’d love to have someone but dating is sometimes more dangerous thank being single as you open yourself up to another person’s values and ways – and possibly getting hurt. Just my thoughts. Being married and in the church is complex. Take care. Nice painting in the background. I’d like to get one like that too but they’re so expensive.
By margaret, January 31, 2010 @ 5:27 pm
Sounds like the two of you have hit a bit of a wall – I did a few days ago too because I didn’t feel like facing all the ghosts in our 51 year old marriage. Then I finished reading and studying the book of Hebrews together with Charles Price’s book on Hebrews and found courage to “Hope” not only for our heavenly Jerusalem but for today and tomorrow in sickness and in health to find a unity of spirit ( and how and when and what to do) in Him who is our savior and our Hope!!! Bless you both!!!
By Chris and Lisa, January 31, 2010 @ 7:36 pm
Hey Melanie,
I appreciate you following along with us… But I can’t disagree with you more! Our faith is not making things harder but the exact opposite. It is because of our faith that we have hope for the amazing things that are in store for us. It is our faith that allows us to be able to “disagree” and still me madly in love with one another… It is because of our understanding on God’s love for us that we can comprehend what true love is toward each other…
Until you understand the fathers Love for you; It will be difficult for you to truly love someone else… You need to know his love for you Melanie before you ever truly “get the most out of” any earthly relationship!
Also, I really have to tell you that being a Pastor is something that we both love… It is not a burden that people are looking to us and watching our lives because we don’t live our lives for them! Lisa and I have chosen to live our lives in a way that honours God, and if people want to follow our lead we count ourselves privileged to be a part of their journey! As we seek to live for God it causes us to constantly evaluate what we are doing and what we are allowing into our lives… Hope that you get what we are trying to communicate!
Chris and Lisa
By Chris and Lisa, January 31, 2010 @ 7:41 pm
Margaret,
With each dare we have to evaluate our lives… Some of these dares are hard for us because we have yet to experience some of them in our relationship! We know that we could and so we are using a lot of these as an opportunity to be proactive in our preparation for a long and happy marriage. We are trying to not allow ourselves to “hit the wall” as there is so much value in the information in each of these love dares! I hope that we don’t come across as not intrigued by each of these dares but that we are trying to learn now to properly address marriage life as it come at us….
Thanks for following along with us!
Chris and Lisa
By Melanie Sabo, January 31, 2010 @ 8:59 pm
Hi Chris,
I appreciate what you are saying. I have tried the Father’s love and with it came trials and attacks. It made me spend my twenties and now thirties alone. I am a very lonely person because I chose the church and have been let down by everyone in it. Not one person has stuck by me. That’s why I am following people I don’t know on Twitter. I have loved when I was a Christian and I didn’t find it made a difference. It’s a long, painful road for some and I spend so many nights crying myself to sleep because I chose a path that few walk. I am too nice a person to have spent the best times in my life alone.