The 585 word update

Please note: tried to give this update via webcam, but youtube said, and I quote, “This functionality is not available right now. Please try again later. ” So, I will update with words (guess I need at least 1000 to equal a picture??)

It’s Day 39.…and I’m feeling a bit discouraged. Not sure what happened exactly. Just lost the rhythm I guess. I don’t know if I have actually completed any of the Dares from the last few days. It’s true we have been busy – but I’m a believer that you make time for what’s important! So – that excuse doesn’t even hold water for me.

I started to lose steam with Day 33 which focused on including spouse with upcoming decisions. We do that all the time. Most mornings we spend 30 – 45 mins talking over coffee to start the day. And our talks frequently cover upcoming decisions, opportunities etc. So I guess in one sense, I have completed that dare. But I just didn’t feel like I had anything new to share – and I’m afraid people might be getting tired of the response “well, this is something we already do” BORING! LOL

Then came Day 34 – “Find a specific, recent example when your spouse demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way. Verbally commend them for this at some point today.” We did talk about this one and could think of lots of christian character….but no recent examples. I even asked Kevin to help me find one about him. “honey, tell me a way your have demonstrated Christian character recently” I will say that the first thing that came to my mind when I read that one is that Kevin is very forgiving and doesn’t hold grudges.

Day 35 – we were actually speaking on the program via telephone on this day and Moira asked us about the christian mentor thing. And, we don’t have one. I think for at least the past 10 years, we have been the ones in the mentor role rather than the “mentees” (is that a word?) So, didn’t really know what to do about this dare.

Day 36 – commit to reading the Bible together daily. This is a good one!! While we didn’t start on Day 36, this is definitely one I want to continue!!

Day 37 - praying together. This is something we do…but could definitely do more of! Will try to focus on making Dare 36 and 37 regular habits.

Day 38 - “Ask yourself what your mate would want if it was obtainable. Commit this to prayer, and start mapping out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires, to whatever level you possibly can.” Can I really help Kevin become a Rock Star? (kidding!!)

And here we are back at Day 39. Feeling, as I said, a bit discouraged for falling behind. I have learned a couple things though. 1. Even writing this update/confession has made me feel a bit better. 2. This PROVES the level of intention and awareness that relationships require. It is soooo easy to let life “get in the way” And it’s so important to think about ways to daily invest in your relationship.

And to Kevin, when you read this…..sorry for taking my frustration out on you. I was feeling yucky about falling behind, and was embarrassed by it. And I just wanted YOU to fix it! Thanks for all the sweet and loving things you have done during the past 39 days. Although we’re not officially done until tomorrow – I would give you an A!!

Wendy
ps…didn’t quite make the 1000 words….but I hope I’ve drawn a clear picture.